it's hard. >> the father alone but krystle campbell, her grandmother recently gave an interview and she was talking about how krystle gave up her single life, this young woman, to care for her grandmother. having her there made her feel safe. you have the other story you've talked about as well, two brothers, both losing parts of their leg and one calling, we're all someone's kid and these guys are in their 20s and 30s and one calls his mom and said mom, i'm hurt bad. that's someone's kid but going back to martin richard, you were talking with natalie, i'm not a mom but i'm an aunt and i have a 7-year-old, a 3-year-old, 14-year-old and a 16-year-old, nieces and nephews and seeing that little bright-eyed, toothy smile, you know, you talk about being a journalist and losing it. you're not a journalist when you see something like that. if your heart is not crushed you're not human. that's someone's baby and he's not going to come home. he's not going to go to high school, not going to go to prom, all of those milestones and his dad has to live with that pain. it's awful. >> we've seen too